If you have the awareness, romantic connection and emotional maturity to navigate the obstacles life throws at you, does it really matter how old your partner is?
A lot of peers spoke of exchanging knowledge and/or life experience with their partners — almost an overarching theme of a mentor/mentee relationship.
Generally, I feel like 10-20 years junior or senior is considered “appropriate” by our society’s standards.
We traveled together, discussed music, art, and film, and supported each other’s careers, just like I would with a partner my own age.
We truly celebrated each other for exactly who we were, and that was very special to me. “Mothering” a partner, regardless of who is older or younger, can manifest into a power struggle later on.
That being said, one major difficulty of having a large difference in age is making sure the morals, values and life goals of both people are synced. This attitude in a relationship usually contributes to codependency and controlling behaviors (not cute! These are major no-nos when your goal is to have a healthy relationship.
Pete Davidson, 25, and Kate Beckingsale, 45, are the newest couple to experience this, with Davidson defending their relationship on Saturday Night Live by providing a laundry list of famous couples to come before them. I had to dig him out of the MGTOW [men going their own way] mindset, but he was so far gone it eventually drove me away. It was a very positive experience and he set the bar with future relationships and taught me what relationships should actually be like. I’m dating someone 23 years older than me, and I think it works out because he’s down to explore millennial culture and I’m somewhat familiar with the things he grew up with.
But, are we all experimenting with people outside our immediate age bracket? The sex is amazing because he’s had practice and I’m curious/open.