Dating year still no commitment
He is using this as a basis for keeping me at arm’s length emotionally, and while I understand what he is attempting to do, it is becoming increasingly frustrating for me.
We have an amazing, intense connection which we both acknowledge and at this point, I’m downright crazy about him, and I know he feels the same about me.But many of us just stay in something “good” for too long, hoping it will eventually blossom into something mind-blowing. It just says “good.” And if you’re not saying “I love you,” it’s not a tragic ending. The problem we’ve gotten into as a culture is that we feel like we don’t have the right to break up with someone if they haven’t done anything morally incomprehensible. And so do you.” And that’s the guilt-relieving part of my argument; you’re helping them find someone better, too.But you don’t have to wait until someone cheats on you to break up with them. Because chances are there’s someone else out there who’s a better match for them than you are, too. Because I believe the American divorce rate isn’t due to people who were passionately in love but just drifted apart (although that happens, too).That is something I want as well, but his remaining active on dating web sites even supposedly looking for “friends” is very disconcerting to me, and I told him as much.Finally, the real question here: How long should I “patiently” wait for him to stop pulling back from me? I know everyone’s different, but I just need some guidance here, since I would like to see where things go without all the constraints!